The amount of negativity in the family will not stop this happening. It will mean that I won't be informing them of my life over there. It appears the Rivers motto may indeed be "out of sight, out of mind".
I have always had situations where I have been in power, but never pressed the issue with this family, for the ramifications could hurt some of them. However, they've been only too happy to treat people I care about with no dignity at all. I have no qualms in wrecking what they take for granted.
Glass houses and throwing stones and all that.