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There's a storm in my teacup!

Well, in my dollar store mug.

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I never gave the explanation, but...
A co-worker called Chris (our assistant manager, he's over 40 years old but doesn't look beyond his early 30s) fought against a cancer which was expected to kill him. He made a full recovery but gets insurance payments still. His family is rather well-off with stocks in lots of places, but they're very down-to-earth and (dare I say it) bonkers. I've been to their household twice and it's a wondrous mess. I fit in well as I'm capable of being picked on without getting upset. They were also the people that helped me get this laptop by driving me to Costco in the early hours of the morning a while back. They're the closest I have to a home base since I've got to Washington, in a similar way to how the English household was to me in New Jersey.

So, a few days ago he asked if I would get the Xbox 360 so I could play online with him and other people. I said yes, but that I couldn't afford it right now - I won't spend more than $200 on a system. Even if I were to buy a used system and hard drive, with all my discounts it still works out to be $290. He then hands me $200 to use to purchase the system.

He claims that taxation is a significant issue due to his multiple incomes via insurance payments, work and his stocks. Therefore sometimes he just has to give money away, and that it is better for his financial state to give the money to someone worthwhile than to Mr. Taxman.

This led to a conundrum. I didn't really want the system at this point in time, but if I didn't get it right now, I'd keep on using the money on more worthwhile items and never get round to it, and it would be unfair on him. I didn't want to reject his offer, he did it genuinely because he thinks of me as a good friend who really has wanted it - we've had remarkably similar lives from stories he's told me (which makes me a little concerned for my medical welfare) and he is the type who would be a little offended if I were to rebuff his generosity, because to him that'd imply I was waiting for a catch to the situation when there isn't one.

In the end, I went and did it, because most of my older Xbox games work fine on it and I had some things lying around in this household I can sell to cover the difference - and once I sell my Xbox it won't have really cost me anything at all. But it's still something I'm not really understanding. I mean, this new system is there in the frontroom and it works perfectly, but it all feels like a joke right now.

Anyway, I'm going for a walk in the rain now. It looks really horrific out there. I'm excited to get groceries and soaked in equal amounts, if that makes sense.

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I don't know about your friend, but I honestly like to do things for people when I can. No strings attached. He is right about the tax issue, but that is often just a justification. Usually it is a matter of knowing that I have something or can have something and that someone I like or care about doesn't or can't and that I could change that. I have honestly given away horses that I turned down offers of over $10,000 for. Seeing someone happy, knowing that it is appreciated... hell just doing it is satisfaction enough.

I know that's what he's intending to do, I tried to do it in the past with friends, though I always picked the wrong people who didn't truly appreciate what they got, and in some circumstances ended up wanting more.

He likes shocking people. From generous gestures like this to hiding behind things to scare staff when they start their shifts... he's quite the character.

He never wants coin change when he buys things, because that makes him jangle when he rushes to hide behind something.

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